life ain't fair

This a spur-of-the-moment post, so I might possibly regret this in the future, but heck who cares, Im only human.

Anyways here is my thought:

(Note: The 'want' used here only mean materialistic wants, to a very small extent)

Life's unfair, as some people do nothing and seem to have so much. Some work so hard, and yet seem to have nothing. Seemingly what they want always seem miles ahead or seemingly impossible to achieve in their lifetime. They review their lives to find what have done wrong? Oh wait, they made sure their egos are in check when reviewing too. And still they cannot find it. They look around for help, try to fix the situation, mostly to no avail. And oops.. They are back to the damn fact that they are miles behind. Damn. The conclusion. Life's unfair.

Maybe God made life to humans this way? Some are meant to be 'lucky', some aren't. Maybe its karma? Maybe some were extremely evil in their past lives, they are suffering from it in their current lives. Or maybe there are no such notions. Maybe life turns out how one wants it to be. It is up to you. But wait, only those 'lucky' ones say these I suppose, those that do not know what those 'unlucky' ones have faced. But not all 'lucky' ones say this. No, not because they realize the plight of those 'unlucky' ones, its because, they feel they are not 'lucky' enough, they one their damn Prada or Porsche. Their current garage full of cars are not sufficient.

A handful of 'lucky' people would only realize the plight of those 'unlucky' people, phew. No, not yet. Some of these, usually cunningly smart ones, would feed on them, knowing the vulnerabilities that accompany these 'unlucky' ones, either making use of them. Ahh.. U see those on TV don't you? Charity drives, bla&bla foundation.. Wow.. But whether that is just a effort to gain more attention from the public, to boost their image, so they can make more money, we do not know. Or, suddenly be Mr Unlucky's best buddy when he is having one of his rare 'lucky' moments, then disappearing when Mr Unlucky is back in his lousy life.

Some evil 'lucky' ones love adding salts to the wounds of the 'unlucky', and deriving joy from seeing them suffer.

A small percentage of 'lucky' people would also realize the plight of the 'unlucky' ones. And now phew. These are the people that honestly lend a hand to those 'unlucky' ones.

Oh wait, Im going off topic. Anyways, everyone has their different opinions of a 'lucky' life. Some would mean being able to go visit ur dream destinations. Some would be, ability to buy whatever they like. Some would be having a close-knit family. Based on ur own opinions, do you agree that life is unfair?

Give, Dont' Only Take!

From : link

I came across this article..


"Giving makes you happier. It's true.

"Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give."

Eleanor Roosevelt

When we give to others joyfully, we experience great happiness. I've experineced many examples of this in my own giving, especially here on this website

Let's take a look at a good, simple example of the giving makes you happy theory. Think back to when we were kids. There was always that kid who never wanted to let you play with his toys. He never shared and everything was always, "Mine, mine, mine!" That kid was NEVER happy. He was never satisfied, usually angry and not generally the kid you wanted to hang around.

Then there was the nice kid who shared everything without thought or hesitation."Sure Billy, you can play with my toys." or "I brought enough matchbox cars, we can each have two apiece!" That kind of kid knew early on that not only would the sharing of his or her toys make other kids happy BUT it would make him or her even happier in the process. There is a certain fulfillment that comes with sharing. They were generous in there giving, gave with joy and had happy friends who liked to be around them. He or she was well liked and a great example that giving, even in the smallest sense, makes you happier."

Taken from : http://www.power-of-giving.com/giving-makes-you-happier.html

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It is not the first time that I have read something which is similar. Its been said over and over again, that the joys of giving outweighs the joys of taking. But weirdly, this certainly isn't the case as I see it as we grow older.


You might say, you might be one of those who love to give. Yeah, you do give to charities. True, but giving does not only be in terms of money. There are a lot more things you can give. Time, knowledge, love, thought are some that the world seem to overlook. It is so common to encounter ppl who are of the "1 to 1" mentality. What that means? They only do something after one has done it to them. What accompanies such thoughts, or more accurately, results in such thoughts, are questions/beliefs such as "Why should I do that when he/she doesn't?" and "I'll be stupid if I do that." Well, of course no one wants to be a doormat. But if everyone thinks like that, the world would ultimately come to a standstill where everyone waits for everyone. The world would be a place full of grumpy and miserable souls thinking that everyone else is selfish and greedy.

STOP!!

Think the other way round. Why not, be the initiator of things? Why not be the one that starts something? In other words, you have to give something. Let's take for example a group project. The group of Mr A,B,C,D. Mr A,B,C finishes his task and waits. Mr D however is still working on his task. Now Mr D is stuck. What should the other 3 do? Should they sit and wait for him to finish it? Of course they must lah right? They've finish their tasks already what. Why the extra trouble right? WRONG. I believe if they had this mentality all the way, they'd end up with an incomplete project in the end of the day. There might be a few reasons why Mr D is stuck. One, he might be just pure lazy. Two, he's not lazy but doesn't know how to move on. So, should the others say "Yea, he so lazy. His fault. I dun wanna help. I wanna go back MSN first. C ya 2moro" and only help if Mr D is in the 2nd case? I think, NO! I am sure if Mr A,B,C had at least gave pointers, or encouraged Mr D a lil, he'd be surely doing a bit. Ahh, even if he doesn't the others should pick up the slack, thus, I m sure a more happier ending in the end eh? Yeah, of course that b*tch in Mr D sucks. He'll not be happy anyways. He'll lose 3 friends, and would be ashamed to even face any of em in d future. Don't sound very fun eh? Anyways, this shows giving(in this case, their time),and maybe bit of sacrifice does more good than bad in the end of the day.

More examples??
Giving brings joys everywhere. Even in sports. In bball for example, making a good pass, ie. giving up the ball to ur pal to score, would be counted as assists. Everyone knows how important assists are. Same case in footie. More assists=More goals=Winning&Happy Team.

Hmm.. Another example. The sharing of knowledge. The feeling you get after you've guided someone who sincerely wants to learn, is certainly satisfying. That's of course when you're sure that u've got sufficient knowledge to give. Not just throwing ur ego around. (Please say "I don't know enough to teach." or "Be sure to double-check with others, I am not very sure on this subject" instead. )

Gifts. The joy of surprising others with gifts! That sincere 'surprised' look that you get? Not only that, you might be on the other end the next time round too!

Still can't think of any? A smile! A simple smile could just brighten one's day. (Go google the advantages of smiling) Not only that, you're certain to receive a smile in return which will brighten ur day as well! =)

But warning: Giving and expecting gratitude is a NO-NO. One should only give sincerely. Why? If one doesn't receive the gratitude in the end of the day, he'll feel all miserable. Not only that, he'd waste whatever he has given. So why give in the first place?

Right, so why not change the way we think about the simple act of 'giving'? Clear those crappy negative thoughts about giving and waiting for something to happen. Sheesh. Life can certainly be a more joyous one simply by giving! Give Give Give ppl! =)

Let's live in a happy world! From : link